Month: December 2024

Note to Self: Love Yourz

Marinelle CabilloLeave a comment

For when you forget how far you’ve come:

You’ve upkept this blog for the last 5 and a half years to give yourself a writing outlet when the post-grad blues were hitting. You didn’t know where it would take you, or how long you’d keep it running, but you knew you had to start somewhere. You have had the privilege of telling your story, and the stories of countless others.

At times you felt conflicted about being so publicly vulnerable, for you keep to yourself, very intentional about keeping your circle small. But you went with your gut feeling and ran with it. This blog has evolved and changed with you as you went through the many stages of life. You’ve documented your grief, heartbreak, happiness, growth, the parts of you that still need healing, and everything in-between. The last 5.5 years of writing has taught you many things, and this is what you’re taking away as you start your next journey –

You are allowed to change your mind. This is your life, act like it. Nobody has to agree with your decisions, as long as it makes sense to you. People pleasing will get you nowhere. If you’re living your life with others in mind, you won’t be living for yourself. You’ll look back and think what you could’ve done differently had you chose yourself and what you wanted. So leave no stone unturned. You’ve always done things on your own time, you have to live and learn for yourself.

And if at any point you continue down a path that you realize is not what you want anymore – it’s okay to pivot. It’s okay to change directions. It’s okay to be wrong. It’s okay to start over. And you have had to click the restart button many times before. Don’t let starting over be the reason why you overstay your welcome. This is your life, you steer it in any direction you please.

No matter how fucked up life can get, your heart will remain untainted. Your biggest flex is your heart, your loyalty, the love you pour into others. You move with pure intentions, so believe me when I say – you will always win. Even when the journey gets tough and things seem to not work out in your favor, trust that you will get everything you want and deserve.

You will forever be a work in progress. Perfect doesn’t exist and growth is never linear. But you control your own narrative. You are truly 1 of 1. Own your past, present, and what is yet to come, because your journey is yours. Love yourz because you create the life you want to live. Make sure it’s what you want.

You don’t know what the next chapter will look like after you shut this down, but you know it’s time. Time to explore different creative outlets, time to pour into other things, time for change. Wore my heart on my sleeve for the past 5.5 years and allowed myself to be vulnerable and real. Thank you to everyone who has been along for the ride.

Note To Self – Love Yourz.

Note To Self: It Ain’t That Serious

Marinelle Cabillo2 Comments

For when you’re overthinking social media:

I know it can get discouraging – being an artist in this saturated era. How exhausting it is to always feel the pressure to create, share, and have something new to show. But you cracked the code a long ass time ago, please don’t forget. Social media is only as important as you make it. Don’t let likes, engagement, and numbers get to your head. That’s not what you do it for. Stay focused.

It’s okay to feel creative burn out. It’ll happen. Don’t force inspiration, it’ll come eventually. It doesn’t matter if you get 100 likes or 10 – you’re confident in your own shit and know that it will reach who it’s supposed to. Your intended audience will find you.

Change with the times, but don’t lose yourself in the process. You’re not desperate to be seen.

Note to self – Social media ain’t that serious.

Note To Self: Believe

Marinelle CabilloLeave a comment

For when you’re feeling pessimistic:

No matter how hard life can get, I hope you never stop believing. Believing that good things will happen, miracles are real, and speaking it into existence works. You attract and manifest what you believe – don’t ever count yourself out of your own blessings. You are deserving of all good things that have yet to come your way. There is no such thing as “too good to be true.” All of it can happen.

You know firsthand how the universe will give you everything you’ve ever wanted and more in due time. Your dreams are as big as you make them. Speak on them as if they are already yours. Be so confident in your belief that everything works out for you and you’ll always win in the end – because you will. What you water will grow, so focus on the endless possibilities where you get everything you’ve prayed for. Not on some materialistic shit, because you know that’s not where your happiness lies.

You have always been a dreamer. I hope you’ll always find a way back to believing in something bigger and truly believing that it will happen for you. And when it happens, I hope you know that you deserve it, all of it.

Note to self – Never stop believing. You deserve it all.

Note To Self: Remain You

Marinelle CabilloLeave a comment

For when you feel wronged:

As hard as it can be – don’t ever let someone have the power to take you out of your character. You know you’re better than that. Matching someone’s energy in spite will only hinder your own light. Don’t stoop down to levels where you know you don’t belong. There’s no need for revenge, to get even, or to prove a point, because you know eventually people will have to reap what they sow… So wish them well.

You wish well on others because you know eventually everyone will get back what they put in. The universe has a funny way of teaching lessons. So let karma deal with it. There’s no point in wasting your energy on people and situations that drain you. You have nothing to prove. Don’t you ever underestimate your power to wish well on those who never deserved your grace.

I refuse to let you reciprocate the same hate, bitterness, or jealousy that some have projected onto you. There is no room in your heart for that. It’s okay to feel angry, upset, and wronged, but don’t let the actions of others turn you into the villain in your own story. You’re stronger than that. Feel it, then let it go.

Note to self – your heart has no room to wish anyone ill will.

Note To Self: Trust Yourself

Marinelle CabilloLeave a comment

For when you’re doubting your intuition:

You’ve always learned the hard way why you should never ignore your gut feeling. It doesn’t matter if your intuition doesn’t make any sense to anyone else. If it’s not a yes, it’s a no. If it has to be forced, it’s a no. If the feeling is even slightly off, it’s a no. Your intuition is your protection. Trust it.

Know the difference between listening to your gut feeling and just being scared / anxious. Those are 2 completely different feelings – one is your body’s initial reaction to a situation, while the other is governed by fear of the unknown. But I know you can distinguish the difference between the two, this is your reminder.

But most importantly, trust yourself. Trust that you can read each situation and make the best choice for yourself. You know yourself more than anyone else, you don’t have to explain or justify your decisions. If it makes sense to you, that’s all that matters. You’re strong enough to block out the opinions and noise of others. Stop doubting yourself, you know what you want.

Note to self – trust your intuition.